Hey there, I would like to introduce myself. My name is Michelle Emmert and I am entering the world of blogging. My career for the past 14 plus years has been Stay at Home mom. I have done all kinds of research on the topic of blogging. So much so that I have come down with what they call Analysis Paralysis. Trust me, I know because I am the queen of analyzing, reading, researching etc. So, as a way to just get out there I have decided to Just Write. That’s what blogging is Writing about what you know.
So, What do I know?
Well let me start off by saying I don’t know much and each day I am on Earth I know less and less. But, I am an experienced stay at home mom. All of the blogging articles you read say you need to be an expert on what you do and and expert in the field. Well, I am not sure if I am an expert but I do have 14 plus years of experience. I feel like I have learned a thing or two and I can share a thing or two about what I know with those of you who are just starting out. It is not easy but it is soooo GOOD!!
Who am I and Why should you Listen to Me
You may be sitting here wondering “Who are you and why should I even listen to you?” Well I’ll tell you. I am Michelle, and I have made it my career to be a stay at home mom and I am so glad I did. I have three beautiful children and I am married to a wonderful man. I am a pastor’s wife, a sister, daughter, daughter in law, sister in law, substitute teacher, bookkeeper, now blogger and lots of other things. We as women wear many hats and I understand how hard it is sometimes to keep all the hats in order and to know when to wear which one, which hat is the priority all the things we get to think about as mamas.
So why should you listen to me? Let me start out by saying, I have no idea why you should listen to me. Here on this blog its going to be real life and real life is telling me to run the other way, don’t listen to me, I don’t have anything figured out. But, stick around, because I am a child of the one true God and He has commissioned me write this blog. He is the one who will be sending the messages you need to hear. It is only through His grace I get to share with you. I am so excited about this blog and can’t wait to see what kind of journey we will embark on.
So Let’s Get Started
I am going to start off by sharing a few tibits I have picked up as a sort of “Beginning Survival Guide” to being a Stay at Home Mom. There are many things I have learned along the way but these tips are good to remember to just get through the day. My goal is to encourage and not give you more expectations for yourself or others. I am all about love and that love comes from God and begins through you.
First thing First: YOU ARE ENOUGH
You are enough for your situation. You are enough for your family. You are enough for God and those around you. You were created to be here doing what you are doing. Stop looking around to get better, be more, do more. There is nothing wrong with self improvement but if that comes from a place of feeling like you don’t measure up, that is a dangerous place.
Love yourself, accept you for who you are. Your kids love you even though…Your husband loves you even though…You need to love yourself even though whatever. Work on things that can improve from a place of love and kindness to yourself, not out of hate for you life, body, family, situation. Ephesians 4:2 Says “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” 1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins”
I truly believe we are called to love ourselves so we can also love those around us.
Watch other People
I am HUGE people watcher. In fact, we live near a theme park called Dollywood in East Tennessee. Most years we buy season passes. I always say, “I’d love to come for a day and just sit on the benches and watch people all day long” I find people fascinating. I watch people to learn what to do and what not to do.
Sometimes we need to watch people to figure out what not to do. There is lots of advice from that perspective!! 🙂 Personally, I can tell you several ways not to do something. I tell my kids, especially my oldest who happens to be a teenage boy at the time of this writing, that the best way to learn sometimes is to look around and see what others do that gets them in trouble and DON’T DO IT! or better yet, do the opposite. I think he gets that and is starting to see that through others’ mistakes he can learn just as much if not more than from his own mistakes. He makes plenty of his own mistakes as well.
An even more productive benefit of watching people is to find people and families that you want to mimic. Watch and observe what they are doing and do that. Talk with them, spend time with them. For you younger moms find an older mom and hang out with her. So much of what I learned about running a home came from just sitting in my mother in law’s kitchen and watching her host large groups of people with ease. I also got to see the struggle and hard work that goes into caring for a home and family. Learning what’s important and what’s not by watching her has added so much richness to my own family.
Learn to Laugh
Ok, so I love to laugh and I don’t take life to seriously at all, unless of course it is a certain time of the month, then everything is serious and a big deal and I can’t even with EVERYTHING!! Can I get an amen?? Any way I digress, your kids are fine, you are good momma! You are doing good things for your family, your husband, your kids everything. Keep it up, keep loving your people, doing your best.
Every day as a stay at home mom will NOT be stellar, your week may not be the best. In fact, those early days of parenting when all three of mine were little there were long stretches of days when I didn’t even get out of my pjs. I remember one day I kept smelling spit up and I couldn’t shake it all day. I changed burpie cloths, blanket and everything. Finally, I realized that I hadn’t changed clothes for 3 days. Y’all, I put clothes on Monday, or probably Sunday after church and this is Thursday and I had ALL of the same clothes on. Can anyone relate?
All that to say, some days, weeks, months are hard. Find something to laugh about. The bible talks about laughter being good medicine. Proverbs 17:22 says a cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. OHHH, I don’t want dried up bones, I want some free, good medicine. I have also found that when I laugh with the kids around it brightens everyone’s spirit. So your assignment for today is to find something to laugh about. Watch a funny movie, find some YouTube clips with someone falling, or playing a prank. Look up some jokes. Ask you kids to tell you jokes. Anything to just start laughing. Go for it.
So, What now?
Now I’d love to get to know you. Like I said, I feel called to reach out to those women right behind me and walk with you. I know about being a stay at home mom, but all are welcome here. Like I said before, it is not me that has something to say but God who lives in me and has walked with me. Please share in the comments what you think is funny. Let’s help each other laugh today. Send me some good videos and also suggestions on what you need to hear from me. I am here to serve people in my audience. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading what I have to say. Love you have a great day!